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Posted: 2017-12-06T23:55:39Z | Updated: 2017-12-07T00:15:50Z

Sex therapists frequently get questions from frustrated female patients who struggle to have an orgasm .

And, of course, theres much more to good sex than just the climax, but that sweet, sweet release makes it that much better.

For many women, orgasming during masturbation isnt an issue problems only arise when it comes to sex with a partner. And if you fall into that category, youre definitely not alone.

In fact, a 2015 Cosmopolitan survey of 2,300 women ages 18 to 40 found that only 57 percent of women have an orgasm most or every time they have sex with a partner. Then theres a smaller subset of women roughly 5 to 10 percent, according to Elisabeth A. Lloyds The Case of the Female Orgasm who have never had an orgasm at all, solo or otherwise.

But ladies, we assure you, things arent quite as hopeless as they seem. We reached out to three sex therapists and gathered their expert tips, suggestions and other kernels of wisdom that will have you on your way to the Big O.

First, why some women cant climax during sex with a partner.

The reasons can be physical, mental or emotional in nature, according to sex therapist Ian Kerner .

It could be a lack of foreplay, a focus on intercourse without requisite levels of clitoral stimulation, a lack of psychogenic or physiological arousal or a relationship issue such as lack of attraction, poor communication or anger, Kerner, the author of She Comes First: The Thinking Mans Guide to Pleasuring a Woman , told HuffPost.

Its also important to look at psychological factors including depression, anxiety, a history of trauma or body image issues, all of which can interfere with a womans ability to climax.

Some women cant orgasm from masturbation, either.

Again, sexperts say there are a number of potential contributing factors at work here. Some women simply may not know what kind of stimulation physical and otherwise they require to reach an orgasm, according to sex therapist Celeste Hirschman .

They might try to masturbate, but dont know how, so they get bored and give up, said Hirschman, who co-authored the book Making Love Real: The Intelligent Couples Guide to Lasting Intimacy and Passion along with her business partner Danielle Harel. We let women know that they may need to move their pelvis, clench the muscles in their vagina, or tighten the muscles in their legs in order to achieve orgasm.

You might [also] need to fantasize, read erotica, or watch porn, Hirschman continued. This not only helps you get turned on, it also gets your head out of performance anxiety.

And if all that doesnt work? Difficulty reaching orgasm could be related to medication side effects, gynecological issues or an erotic conflict around what arouses you (in other words, a taboo element of your sexual identity).

So what do sex therapists recommend to patients who struggle with these very things? Below, seven expert-backed tips.