This age-old dating profession has reemerged as an efficient alternative to swipe-based, burnout-prone dating apps.

by Patrice Peck
Published Feb. 22, 2024

Matchmakers are having a moment. From hit reality series like Netflix s Indian Matchmaking and Jewish Matchmaking to the post-pandemic uptick in matchmaking services, this age-old dating profession has reemerged as an efficient, albeit lesser-known alternative, to swipe-based, burnout-prone dating apps.

And just as a Black person might feel more understood and comfortable with a Black therapist or doctor (given the persistent anti-Black biases and discrimination among health professionals), some Black singles are opting for a Black matchmaker to avoid explaining sociocultural issues and experiences or feeling fearful of being invalidated, judged and misunderstood.

To help demystify this practice and shed light on the experiences of Black matchmakers and their Black clients, HuffPost recently held a virtual roundtable discussion with Shaneeka McCray, Amari Ice and Daphney Poyser. The professionals shared their thoughts on the concept of Black love, the pros and cons of online dating and apps, and the importance of self-awareness, self-accountability and personal growth while seeking and sustaining love.

Meet Your Matchmakers

Shaneeka McCray

Shaneeka McCray is the founder of the dating service Helpmeet Club . Not only does McCray help elite professional singles find love, but she also assists in meaningful transformations in their lives. McCray, a certified matchmaker and law of attraction coach, serves clients of all ages, primarily those in their 30s and older, throughout the United States.